You're gonna mess up (and it's okay)

The face of someone who's gonna mess up

​Scared to try because you might mess up?

I know the feeling.

Two weeks ago I took a deep breath and admitted I haven't taken care to consider race and racism as it relates to self care and my business.

Talking about the murders of innocent Black lives just didn't "go" with my calming, encouraging public persona.

As I've finally started talking about undoing anti-Black racism, the voice in my head has cut me no slack.

​"This isn't why people started following you. Get back to talking about taking naps  and preschool drop-offs."

"You titled your email '3 ways moms make great allies', but this social media post says this is a title to be conferred upon you and that 'ally' is a verb, not a noun. Bet you feel dumb now."

"How long are you going to keep talking about race?"

Dude. My freaking inner critic! (Any other Enneagram 1s out there?)

Luckily, being a self care coach means that I've learned that being gentle with myself is one of the best ways to create lasting change.

Being hard on myself leads to judgement...which leads to shame...which leads to wanting to hide and never try again.

Being gentle with myself gives me permission to be human, to not get it right on the first try, to admit where I have used my privilege to choose out of hard conversations about race.

If you've been feeling scared to try, judging yourself for messing up, or hard on yourself regarding your journey into standing up for racial justice, you'll want to see this.

I came across these freeing words by anti-bias trainer Leesa Renée Hall, who says it much better than I can.

Click the image below to read her thoughts on messing up.

​Do you have the courage to stumble?

Do I?

I hope so.

Let's stumble bravely together.
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