"I need childcare fulltime"

I was starting to feel like a broken record.

Every Tuesday, I post on Instagram about how excited I am that our toddler and 8 year old are at my parents' for the morning.

I document picking up a Coffeeholic Dream (heaven in a cup) at my favorite Vietnamese coffeeshop.

Then I spend a BLISSFUL, distraction-free morning focusing on you, dear readers; my clients; and Brave Self Care.

"Boooorrring," I thought as I posted an Instagram Story about my drive to the coffeeshop for the umpteenth time.

Then I got a message from a former client.

"I live vicariously through your Tuesday mornings 😅"

Read our full exchange here:

So, here's your reminder, friend.
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You don't need to wait for your *ideal conditions* to start living into your best life.

Waiting for the *ideal conditions*...

...like fulltime childcare, total confidence in yourself, understanding of your life's purpose, or permission from your family to finally focus on you...

means it's just not going to happen.

You can take steps now - in the imperfect present - to become the person you want to be.

Now, this is not to say systemic racism, patriarchy, or a broken childcare system are things you should be able to bootstrap your way out of.

The harm done by these systems is real.

But it is an encouragement to do what you can, with what you have, instead of waiting for the ideal conditions to come along.

With a few hours of grandparent care a week and tag-teaming bedtime duties with Greg, I'm running my business, volunteering at school, raising three kids, and trying to be a kind spouse, friend and family member.

I can do all of the above because of many life advantages, but also because I'm fiercely committed to doing what brings me life, even if the conditions are less than ideal (i.e. my kids walk in on Zoom calls to take showers and - this very minute - my toddler's glued to the tablet so I can finish this email).

What questions do you have about not waiting for your *ideal conditions* to start living the life you want? I'm happy to answer, so hit 'Comments' below!

To going for it in the imperfect present,

Charissa Pomrehn
Self Care Coach
Brave Self Care