At the start of the pandemic I was feeling totally overwhelmed by the weight of school closing and losing childcare. My friend Zeinab came over with a delicious salmon lunch she made just for us and her favorite Starbucks order. Prime example of how moms SHOW UP for each other!
In this unprecedented time of collective reckoning with anti-Black racism, it can be hard to know what to do.
I mentioned in an earlier post that when another mom's in need, you're there with a casserole.
Let's rally that generous energy to care for the Black folks in our lives.
My college roommate posted on Facebook:
"Today I'm feeling the weight of the collective black sorrow all through my body. Black people are not okay right now."
There is no easy fix for this, but we can at least show up in ways we know how to show love.
- Send money for coffee, leave flowers on the doorstep, drop off a meal or do any of the loving things you'd do for a mom with a newborn in survival mode.
- Take a risk in trying something new in the context of the relationship.
- Preface your gift with a long preamble about how guilty you feel, how overwhelmed you are, or how exhausting current events have been for you. It's totally fine to feel these things. Process them with someone else. (See Ring Theory for why.)
- Make your act of service something so complicated it adds to the stress in their life.
Your turn to play!
What ONE thing you can do to show care for a Black friend?
Take a moment and comment below! I'll be cheering you on in doing what you CAN, not what you can't.
To taking one step at a time,
Self Care Coach for moms
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