I saw her in the gym during kindergarten P.E.
A brown-haired girl with blue eyes. She looked nice. I went up to her and asked, "Will you be my friend?" She said, "Yes," and a best friendship was born.
All my life, friendship and relationship-building have been tremendously important to me.
"You've always had such good friends," I remember my mom saying to me.
In conversation, others remarked, "That's a good question," time and time again.
But when I came to a crossroads in my career, being a good friend and great question-asker didn't seem to point me in any direction at all.
If there was a way to be a professional friend, I would do it. But no such job seemed to exist.
Then I made a discovery. When a friend told me she was being certified as a life coach, a giant lightbulb CLICKED!
You mean I could have deep and authentic conversations - as my job?
I could create safe spaces for others to share their hearts - as my job?
I could learn to ask questions that would help others make significant changes in their lives - as my JOB?
Get out of town!
I was trained, certified, and the rest is history.
A client remarked that what I do now is like "sacred friendship". I couldn't have said it better.
Here are five things I'm especially proud of this year.
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Would you like to be my friend? Or do you know someone who would?
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Something happened last week.
I rolled into bed around 9:30 after getting the kids in bed and couldn't make myself get up...
Not even when our toddler cried out for "mama, mama".
Not even knowing Greg was in a meeting and that I was on duty for the kids.
Not even the next morning.
Not even with our two year old climbing on me and bringing me all the lip balms (pictured :).
Not even mid-morning.
Not even by 11:00am.
To be honest, it scared me. To suddenly lose the will to do anything was unsettling. I felt unproductive, and ashamed for being unproductive. I was afraid I might feel this way for a long time.
A saving grace? A month ago I'd called it.
Am I clairvoyant? No - I just have a predictable menstrual cycle and use Google Calendar. 😄
This calendar reminder I set for myself in November gave me a glimmer of hope that there was a reason I'd lost my will to do anything.
But it wasn't until my period actually started that I felt a sense of relief.
And I got out of bed.
4 Takeaways from the Time I Couldn't Get Out of Bed
I'm not a medical professional, but do coach with clients with diagnoses of anxiety and seasonal affective disorder to help them feel as good as they can in their current season of life.
We focus on what they DO have control over, figure out what they really want, and break everything down into practical, do-able mini steps.
(For example, a client with seasonal affective disorder worked with me to realize she wanted to seek out warmth and light during the winter. She designed outings and experiences for herself to feel cozy and connected to loved ones during a typically hard time. And of course she was under the care of her doctor while working with me.)
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Taken by my 12 year old
Despite grief, breakdowns, and (to be honest) a lot of phone scrolling in bed, 2020 was an incredible year for me and Brave Self Care.
From self care workshops, being interviewed, coaching a record number of clients, offering complimentary coaching to Black moms, and even speaking to a global audience, my work to help you feel happier, calm, and recharged gave me a positive outlet even when the world looked grim.
Thank you for all your business and encouragement!
I truly appreciate each one of you, and am so thankful for your support that kept this small business growing during the pandemic.
When you're ready, there are 2 ways I can help you go from martyr mode to feeling more joy and lightness in parenting:
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I'd love to answer your questions and look forward to hearing from you!
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