“Sometimes it’s a bubble bath, sometimes it’s a root canal.”
So said my friend and coach Victoria while talking about self care. As someone with a fear of the dentist, she had had some truly harrowing dental work done that she'd been courageous enough to schedule and go to.
And isn't it true?
Some forms of self care feel GREAT. Other forms? Not so much.
A quick search of the hashtag "#selfcare" on Instagram reveals gorgeous cups of coffee, outdoor yoga, and freshly-drawn baths in clean tubs, citrus slices floating on the surface of the water.
And yes, these things can be a part of your self care rhythms.
But some of you have grown wary of the idea of self care as aspirational consumables. This can't be all there is...right?
True self care is stewardship of your whole self: your physical, mental, spiritual, relational parts.
So, going to multiple dentist visits for some painful (but much needed) work? Self care. It might not be pretty in the short term, but taking care of things like a root canal now will save you from a world of hurt in the future.
What not-so-fun task might you need to take on in service of your long-term, holistic wellness?
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How's your day been so far? I hope it's going well.
Well, I had "Finalize blog post " on my calendar today (practically the only thing scheduled), but it didn't happen.
You may have seen that my family spent the last week in California, visiting friends and taking a trip to Disneyland and California Adventure.
It was an amazing time together, but after getting home yesterday, I just wasn't ready to jump back into the swing of things today.
In fact, I felt pretty crappy, even after my morning walk.
Instead of forcing myself to be productive (which, let's face it, rarely ends well), I laid down on the couch.
When I noticed I was going down the path of restless Instagram-scrolling, I turned on some relaxing music. I made myself turn off my phone.
Then I took a nap. A long one.
When the voice in my head whispered, "Just stay on Instagram," I told it, "No...media binging is one of my warning signs, and I'm going to feel so much better if I stop now."
When the voice in my head said, "But you were supposed to write a blog post this morning," I told it, "I know. But there's no way I can write it in this state. I need to rest first."
When the voice in my head scolded, "If you had just gone to bed earlier, you wouldn't need this," I told it, "True - but this is life right now. There's no use feeling guilty today."
I felt ten times better when I woke up.
Friend, whether you're pregnant like me, adjusting to home life after a trip, or just living life as usual - I hope you'll give yourself permission to rest when you need it.
And don't forget to tell your inner critic, "Thanks, but no thanks," when you find it telling you otherwise.
Your body, mind and spirit will thank you!
To taking naps and breaks when we need them,
LaQuantae and I first connected when I offered some free coaching sessions to the Families of Color Seattle community as part of my one-year anniversary celebration. (I heard from 20 people in 24 hours, a first!)
Right away, I could tell she was different.
She was so thoughtful and thorough with her reflection questions. She read the "What is Coaching?" handout I email every person who does a free consultation, and even revised her answers based on how her understanding of coaching changed. I'd never seen someone be so proactive at this stage of getting to know me.
I learned LaQuantae was facing some serious challenges, all while raising her three kids, five and younger. Despite significant obstacles, obstacles that would make me want to throw in the towel, she was reading books that inspired her, taking time to learn from life coach Iyanla Vanzant, and putting up quotes to motivate her around her living space.
"TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Fill your cup with so much love and goodness that it spills over in the WORLD!"
DANG. It didn't take an expert to see this was a woman primed for growth. It took a while for the timing to work out, but I was thrilled to be able to coach LaQuantae at the start of this year.
With her permission, here are some of her reflections on her coaching experience.
"Right now my heart feels open and inspired. I can see my future and it is bright.
(I'm not crying; you're crying.)
And there's more:
"I did not realize how much I had grown in just two weeks' time until Charissa provided this time and a mirror for me to really take stock of myself.
I hope LaQuantae's story has inspired you as much as it did me.
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