What does "bra research" have to do with self care?
A lot, actually.
Er, let me back up.
One of my favorite clients wanted to get more exercise. But, she'd never achieved a runner's high, was bored by the treadmill, and described exercise as something that "doesn't excite me and has never excited me". (Girl, I feel you.)
It was something she'd tried and failed at doing more of in the past, yet saw how great it was for her mental health.
We talked big picture. She told me how she needed to own her life more. How she'd sometimes get ideas, really good ideas, but not get traction. How she wanted to build her muscle for change and know she was able to make changes in her life.
Beneath her goal to get more exercise was a deep longing to become a different kind of person.
At the end of our first session, she picked her action steps for the next two weeks, as all my clients get to do. My favorite step?
As we'd talked about creative ways to remove barriers to exercising, my client mentioned that the hassle of having to plan ahead to bring workout clothes to work, then change, was often enough to discourage her from trying in the first place. If she could find a workout bra that could double as an everyday bra, she'd have made exercising in her work's exercise room that much easier.
And research bras she did! Two weeks later, she'd found one that could go from work to workout, making it that much easier to swing by the exercise room.
She was on her way to being the kind of person who could make changes in her life.
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I write about clients like the one above because they teach me about failure in motherhood and inspire me to keep growing, even in impossible circumstances.
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“Sometimes it’s a bubble bath, sometimes it’s a root canal.”
So said my friend and coach Victoria while talking about self care. As someone with a fear of the dentist, she had had some truly harrowing dental work done that she'd been courageous enough to schedule and go to.
And isn't it true?
Some forms of self care feel GREAT. Other forms? Not so much.
A quick search of the hashtag "#selfcare" on Instagram reveals gorgeous cups of coffee, outdoor yoga, and freshly-drawn baths in clean tubs, citrus slices floating on the surface of the water.
And yes, these things can be a part of your self care rhythms.
But some of you have grown wary of the idea of self care as aspirational consumables. This can't be all there is...right?
True self care is stewardship of your whole self: your physical, mental, spiritual, relational parts.
So, going to multiple dentist visits for some painful (but much needed) work? Self care. It might not be pretty in the short term, but taking care of things like a root canal now will save you from a world of hurt in the future.
What not-so-fun task might you need to take on in service of your long-term, holistic wellness?
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How's your day been so far? I hope it's going well.
Well, I had "Finalize blog post " on my calendar today (practically the only thing scheduled), but it didn't happen.
You may have seen that my family spent the last week in California, visiting friends and taking a trip to Disneyland and California Adventure.
It was an amazing time together, but after getting home yesterday, I just wasn't ready to jump back into the swing of things today.
In fact, I felt pretty crappy, even after my morning walk.
Instead of forcing myself to be productive (which, let's face it, rarely ends well), I laid down on the couch.
When I noticed I was going down the path of restless Instagram-scrolling, I turned on some relaxing music. I made myself turn off my phone.
Then I took a nap. A long one.
When the voice in my head whispered, "Just stay on Instagram," I told it, "No...media binging is one of my warning signs, and I'm going to feel so much better if I stop now."
When the voice in my head said, "But you were supposed to write a blog post this morning," I told it, "I know. But there's no way I can write it in this state. I need to rest first."
When the voice in my head scolded, "If you had just gone to bed earlier, you wouldn't need this," I told it, "True - but this is life right now. There's no use feeling guilty today."
I felt ten times better when I woke up.
Friend, whether you're pregnant like me, adjusting to home life after a trip, or just living life as usual - I hope you'll give yourself permission to rest when you need it.
And don't forget to tell your inner critic, "Thanks, but no thanks," when you find it telling you otherwise.
Your body, mind and spirit will thank you!
To taking naps and breaks when we need them,