Ever have a moment that stops you in your tracks?
A moment when - out of nowhere - a teachable moment smacks you over the head?
I did at the start of a family vacation last summer.
We were on a plane to Iowa to visit family, and I noticed a little boy across the aisle. He looked about 5 years old and was wearing a t-shirt several times too big for him. From his wide-eyed expression, I wondered if it was his first time on a plane.
He got more and more excited as we prepared for takeoff, asking incredulously, "Are we going to go even faster than THIS?" as we slowly taxied. Then, as the plane accelerated down the runway he loudly exclaimed, "YEAH! We're almost in the clouds!!"
We were most certainly still bumping down the runway, but I was so struck by his vision for being up in the air - it was so real he could almost taste it!
I sensed God nudging me to learn from this boy. At that time I was weeks away from the final test that would determine if I would graduate from my coach training on time. The distance between me and my coaching certification was rapidly decreasing and I was almost in flight.
Yet I FELT very much earthbound. I had recently gotten feedback that my coaching was technically excellent but "mechanical". Ouch. Worse, I could see what my trainer meant, but I didn't know how to become more natural.
Yet through this excited little boy, God invited me to focus less on the frustration of my earthbounded-ness and more on how great it was going to be to be up in the clouds!
I was on the right track. (And, with practice, I was able to coach naturally even under the time constraint of our final test and graduate on time!)
Is there any area of your life where you are discouraged about not having “taken off”?
Maybe you feel behind in your career. You look around at your peers and their sophisticated-sounding job titles. How can you possibly catch up?
Maybe you feel behind in being an adult. Sure, you've managed to keep your kids alive, but their diet of 99% carbs, the state of the living room, and the fact that you've constantly running late is not a great feeling. Shouldn't you have the hang of this by now?
There is an incredible difference between being on the ground and being in the air. And honestly, my first instinct was to laugh at the boy who thought we were almost in the clouds when I could feel the bumps of the pavement beneath us. But in a way, he was right! Within about ten minutes we really were flying alongside the clouds.
Zoom out and look at yourself from God’s perspective. Could it be that He has you on the runway now? Maybe you’re still at the gate. Maybe you’re taxiing. Or maybe you’re positioned to take flight sooner than you know.
God, help me to know that my earthbounded-ness does not mean I will always be stuck on the ground. Help me to focus on joy of where I’m going, not get down on myself about where I am. Increase my anticipation and joy about “being in the clouds”, and help me to know that with Your help I can get there.
Whether it’s waking up with a weird feeling behind the eyes because I’ve stayed up too late; coming downstairs to a dining table full of works-in-progress, summer camp drawings, event fliers and batteries (yes, batteries); or having the kids fight over the brown sugar and shovel a questionable amount into their oatmeal bowls…
Let’s just say, I’m a morning person, but getting out the door with my kids can leave me less than sunny.
I recently read a weird question about mornings: What makes you angry? The writer challenged readers to identify what exactly it is that makes them angry in the morning, and to find one solution–just one–for that anger-triggering thing.
I guess I’m an undercover angry person because I can think of several things that make me mad. In no particular order, here are five maddening situations that occur at my house in the morning, and the sanity-saving solutions that have worked for me.
Read the rest over at Kindred Mom.
Ever wonder when it's your turn to take a break?
I clearly remember becoming a mother. There was so much my son needed from me, all day, every day. My partner was incredibly supportive and even had a flexible schedule, but I felt overtaken by breastfeeding, diaper changes, and figuring out how to help our son sleep.
Even if you're past the baby stage, you might still feel overtaken by all that "being mom" requires of you. That's why I specifically love to coach moms! Here are four ways being coached is a break from mom life (that actually makes you a better parent):
1) You get to choose.
There’s a lot in motherhood you don’t get to pick. Just for starters, your child’s gender, temperament, and interests. The quality of schools in your neighborhood, the sick leave policy at work, and the cost of childcare. And even whether or not your son will eat meatballs for dinner. (He liked them last week but tonight? Nice try, Mom.)
My clients choose exactly what they want to work on, based on what is meaningful to them. They choose what to focus on, and we spend the the coaching journey exploring exactly what this change would mean to them, what is preventing them from moving forward, and how to move past the barriers.
2) You get someone who sees you.
The first time I worked with a coach, I chose to improve an area I’d been lax in (and frankly, feeling guilty about). My coach observed, “I saw you close your eyes and lean back in your chair,” and showed me my squinched eyes and posture of defeat. Just by observing my nonverbal communication, she could tell this was a hard goal for me to make!
My coach saw me, and that helped me understand how I was really feeling.
I choose to serve moms because I clearly remember a time when I felt invisible to the world. I was doing the most important work I would ever do - raising my son - and yet, without a job title, I felt like others saw me as lesser. I am here to see you - your ups, downs, and your heart.
3) You get a cheerleader.
From the moment you met her, you’ve been your child’s #1 fan. You cheered her on when she first rolled over, started to crawl, and took her first steps. But who is noticing you? Who is witnessing the new things you are doing and cheering you on from the sidelines?
If you decide that working together is the next right step for you, I get that privilege! I love to celebrate my clients’ wins. Whether it’s getting to bed earlier, gathering the courage to ask your spouse for support, or taking a risk to invest in your career...I am there to celebrate your every success and support you even when things don’t go as planned.
4) You get grown up conversation.
Ever tried to get to know another mom at the playground? Every other sentence becomes: “Honey, we don’t throw wood chips!”..."Sweetie, wood chips stay on the ground.”..."HEY! What did I JUST say?!?” (purely hypothetical example ;). Sometimes it feels impossible to have a real conversation.
Being coached is like guaranteeing a meaningful, adult conversation every week. When I worked with my coach, I looked forward to our sessions all week. I adored and cared about her, but the freedom to talk only about myself (and know that that was the point!) was SO lovely. I loved being able to go deep in conversation, sharing my heart uninterrupted. And now, it's my joy to offer that grown up conversation to others.
Motherhood is stressful. Unlike a Netflix binge or eating a pint of Ben & Jerry's, being coached is a guilt-free way to take a break! Taking time out to choose a goal, be seen, get encouragement and have grown-up conversation is an investment in you and your whole family's well-being.
Moms who choose and work towards goals aren't just happier, but better able to focus on the needs of their children. They know they're focusing on their own needs, too.
I show moms how they can find time (and energy!) to care for themselves, so they end the day feeling happy and accomplished. Want to learn more? Two invitations:
1) Follow me on Instagram and get to know me better.
2) Or, if you're ready, schedule a call so we can talk about how coaching can be a break from mom life that makes you better at it! No hard sell. My heart is to give you the info you need to make a decision if coaching is the right next step for you.